Why I Don’t Want To Be A Proverbs 31 Woman- And Why You Shouldn’t Either

You’ve heard it before. You know who “she” is. And you might even know verses 29 and 30 like the back of your hand.

vs. 29 Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.

vs. 30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Perhaps you even roll your eyes or check out a little bit when the topic for women’s night at church is about “her” again. Or, maybe you’re like me and for your whole life the Proverbs 31 Woman was who you looked up to and used as your standard of excellence.

I mean, if I could just look like her in the way I care for my family, the way I work, the way I cook and value the resources the Lord gave me– I would be doing something right.


Well, the past 10 months have provided ample opportunity for me to be thinking and praying constantly about what kind of woman God has called me to be.

Hear me. I’m not saying that it’s not a good thing to be a Proverbs 31 Woman– because it is. But Jesus called me to be more than just good. He has called me to be great.

I would be lying and doing you a disservice if I for one second led you to believe that I have it figured out– because I don’t. I’m learning something new about God each and every day, and He has been pouring into me a fresh perspective.

If we want to move from good to great in our relationships with Christ, change the status quo and be truly excellent, we have to be Jesus women. Bible women. Women who wake up and begin her day with her creator and Father.

Women who have the faith of Mary, the courage of Ruth, the servant heart of Martha, the boldness of Paul and the prayer life of Daniel.

Women who aren’t afraid to stand out from the majority like Caleb and Joshua. Women who defeat giants in Jesus’ name like David.

Women who stand up for what we believe in like Esther and who God can use to build His ministry upon like Peter.

Women like Jesus who pray “not my will, Father, but yours be done.”

Whole Bible women not just Proverbs 31 women.

It’s not that it’s bad, it’s just not enough.

Author: Emily Laniak

I am a 28 year young, candle loving, Jesus worshipping, creative entrepreneur, wife and proud dog mom. I am a chronic illness warrior by the grace of Jesus and my heart beats to worship Him.

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